Separation: Your first steps after leaving and what to focus on right now

You've done the hardest thing.

Whatever it took to get here — however long it took, however many times you thought about it before this — you did it. And now you need to know what comes next.

This guide focuses on the immediate period — the first days and weeks. Not the long-term picture. Just right now.

Your immediate safety

If you've left because of violence or the threat of it:

  • Let someone know where you are

  • Consider whether your location can be tracked (see the digital privacy guide)

  • If you don't feel safe, contact your state's crisis service or 1800RESPECT — they can help with safety planning and accommodation

If there is an intervention order in place, keep a copy with you and note the conditions.

Housing

Where you're sleeping tonight matters more than anything else right now.

  • If you're staying with someone: let them know your situation as clearly as you're comfortable with, so they can support you properly

  • If you need crisis accommodation: call your state's family violence service (see the state support section on this page) — they can help find a safe place, even with children and pets

  • If you're in your own rental: you may have grounds to have your partner removed rather than leaving yourself — a legal service or family violence worker can advise

Money

  • If you have a separate account, make sure you have access to it

  • If you don't: visit a bank branch in person with your ID — they are experienced in helping people in your situation

  • Apply for Centrelink support as soon as you're able — Crisis Payment is available immediately for people who have left due to family violence

  • Call the National Debt Helpline (1800 007 007) if you're concerned about shared debts

Children

If you have children with you:

  • Their school doesn't need to be told the full situation, but letting them know there has been a change at home can help teachers support your child

  • Keep their routine as normal as possible in the first weeks — consistency helps

  • If there are concerns about the other parent's contact, speak with a family lawyer or call Legal Aid in your state

Give yourself permission to not have it all sorted

You don't need a plan for the next five years. You need a plan for this week.

Focus on: a safe place to sleep, access to money, your health, and one person who knows where you are. Everything else can come next.

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