Separation: Your first steps after leaving and what to focus on right now
You've done the hardest thing.
Whatever it took to get here — however long it took, however many times you thought about it before this — you did it. And now you need to know what comes next.
This guide focuses on the immediate period — the first days and weeks. Not the long-term picture. Just right now.
Your immediate safety
If you've left because of violence or the threat of it:
Let someone know where you are
Consider whether your location can be tracked (see the digital privacy guide)
If you don't feel safe, contact your state's crisis service or 1800RESPECT — they can help with safety planning and accommodation
If there is an intervention order in place, keep a copy with you and note the conditions.
Housing
Where you're sleeping tonight matters more than anything else right now.
If you're staying with someone: let them know your situation as clearly as you're comfortable with, so they can support you properly
If you need crisis accommodation: call your state's family violence service (see the state support section on this page) — they can help find a safe place, even with children and pets
If you're in your own rental: you may have grounds to have your partner removed rather than leaving yourself — a legal service or family violence worker can advise
Money
If you have a separate account, make sure you have access to it
If you don't: visit a bank branch in person with your ID — they are experienced in helping people in your situation
Apply for Centrelink support as soon as you're able — Crisis Payment is available immediately for people who have left due to family violence
Call the National Debt Helpline (1800 007 007) if you're concerned about shared debts
Children
If you have children with you:
Their school doesn't need to be told the full situation, but letting them know there has been a change at home can help teachers support your child
Keep their routine as normal as possible in the first weeks — consistency helps
If there are concerns about the other parent's contact, speak with a family lawyer or call Legal Aid in your state
Give yourself permission to not have it all sorted
You don't need a plan for the next five years. You need a plan for this week.
Focus on: a safe place to sleep, access to money, your health, and one person who knows where you are. Everything else can come next.