Separation: Understanding your options without committing to anything

This guide is for you if you're not sure yet. If the idea of "leaving" feels too big, too final, too abstract, but you want to understand what's actually possible.

Getting information is not the same as making a decision.

What does separation actually involve?

In Australia, separation is the process of ending a relationship - de facto or married. It doesn't require anyone's permission, a formal document, or a lawyer. You can be legally separated while still living in the same house.

The practical parts of separation typically involve:

• Property and finances : dividing shared assets, dealing with joint debts

• Children: working out parenting arrangements and, if needed, child support

• Housing: deciding who stays and who goes, or whether both people move

• Legal formalities: divorce (for married couples) is a separate step, and requires 12 months of separation first

None of this needs to happen at once. Many people sort out these things slowly, over months or even years.

What you don't have to do right now

• You don't have to tell anyone

• You don't have to consult a lawyer (though it can help to understand your position)

• You don't have to leave the house

• You don't have to decide anything about children, money or property yet

A note on free legal information

Getting legal information — not advice, just information — is one of the most useful things you can do at this stage. Understanding your general rights around property, children and finances can help you feel much less in the dark.

Family Relationships Online (familyrelationships.gov.au) is a good free starting point. Our legal guidance page also has a range of free services in every state.